It is possible to heal from trauma, neglect and abuse. The process is slow and painful but ultimately rewarding.

I open this episode with the poem Forever Cursed To Sing, using it to highlight to journey I have taken thus far, as well as sharing the lessons learnt…

Am I starving or full? What am I actually craving to eat? When should I stop? And why does it feel like love and food are intertwined?

Recovering from trauma is a long and complex. My current, and longest, battle is around re-establishing the mind-body connection. I want to be know what I am feeling and what those feelings actually mean.

To do this I will be counting-calories. Not to lose weight, but to teach myself what the feelings that arise actually mean - without the added fear, anxiety and ignorance. Please help me to stay on track with this!

Neglect is the absence of love, support and guidance. It’s impact is multifaceted, spanning every aspect of a sufferers life.

I have started blogging on the topic in the hopes to reduce the stigma, explain the impact, and to connect with fellow suffers.

Two of my recent posts received a lot of comments and engagement, so I decided to feature and expand upon them here.

Ever find yourself stuck in the middle of a conversation that you weren’t prepared for? One that is triggering, intense and wholly inappropriate for the situation?

I have.

In this episode I discuss how to manage these conversations, in a way that both protects your mental state as well as the relationship.

I always felt out of place growing up, both socially as well as internally - I would feel the need to ‘act to fit in’. The problem was that this act wasn’t me, and it wasn’t sustainable.

Clearly I did not have a secure attachment. The fear and neglect I faced growing up has ramifications to this day.

In this episode I explore these impacts - both on myself as well as on how I parent.

For as long as I knew him, my dad dealt. Every day, a procession of desperate, malnourished and volatile addicts would visit our house looking to score. From a child’s perspective, they seemed to have only one goal - acquiring their next high. Growing up in this environment had a profound impact on my life and world view.
I never felt safe.

In this podcast, I answer the question that I am asked the most, ‘Where was your mum in all this?’

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Topic: Neglect is the absence of something. When it comes in terms of physical needs (food, water, shelter etc) the consequences are immediately obvious. However, when it is emotional neglect, and attention neglect, the ramifications are often hidden. In this episode I discuss these ramifications as well as what I am doing to overcome them.

Book Chapter: ‘Learn How To Learn’ (00:12:50) ch:4.2 of How To Get Your Sh!t Together

“Learning how to learn is life’s most important skill.” – Tony Buzan

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