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How To Reframe Negative Self Talk
Learning Life Skills You Were Never Taught As A Child
You Are Allowed To End Toxic Relationships
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I Just Completed 75 HARD & The Results Are Unimpressive
I Am A Survivor Slut: On Trauma and Hyper Sexuality
There Is Something Spiritual About Cutting Your Hair
Why Mental Illness Does Not Excuse Your Behavior Towards Others
Death
Despite everything that happened, I loved my father and still do. To this day my biggest regret is not connecting with him more. I do not forgive him for what he put my brother and me through, but I regret not trying to get to know him on a deeper level, particularly as an adult. When I talk about my childhood, people always say something along the lines of:
“But you were just a child and he was the adult. He should have done more; it was his fault that your relationship fell apart.”
Yes, he was the adult and I was the child. But that truth does not change my role and my actions towards him. I still made the choice to limit contact. I still made the choice to become emotionally distant. I still made the choice to stop seeing him altogether for years. Despite all that he was and all that he did, I still played a role in our relationship, or lack thereof.
You Are Allowed to End Toxic Relationships
"Typically, we don’t leave a relationship until it becomes so bad that the truth of the situation is truly undeniable.
However, by then, we have been beaten down and are broken by the relationship’s turn for the worse. Our confidence levels are shattered and we may have the symptoms of a plethora of mental afflictions – we are anxious about the future and depressed about ourselves. Our self-worth drops so low that we feel like staying is the right option because ‘they are the best someone like me could get’ or ‘at least I am lucky enough to have someone’..."