I am the cause of most of my suffering. Me. Not the past trauma, not the lingering mental health issues, not the state of the world, not my bank account, and not the health of my body. But me, or more specifically, my response to all those things. I have learnt that suffering is the difference between expectations and reality – and that your happiness is proportional to how much you accept that fact.
Let me explain…
Read MoreI believe in informed enthusiastic consent in all things - If you and everyone involved are not saying ‘fuck yes’ to an idea, event, or action it’s a ‘hell no’…
Read MoreThere is something spiritual about cutting your hair, about literally discarding a part of your past and the watching as the energy of the present replaces it. Yes, cutting my beard is a simple act, but it symbolic of a decision, to reaffirm myself and to choose to live…
Read MoreZen suggests that when sitting, you simply sit. If enlightenment comes it comes. But you should stop striving for it. There should be no expectations of growth, change, happiness, or insights. You should sit for sitting’s sake, or more specifically, you should just sit…
Read MoreRock bottom implies a hard abrupt end. A clear definable point at which things can’t get worse.
I realise I’ve been waiting for such a point, waiting for a clear moment where I can say, ‘ah ha! This is it, this is the lowest point of the dark night of my soul.’
But now I realise that the analogy of rock bottom is faulty…
Training should be realistic and energetic. Each technique should have a purpose, be easy to implement in real circumstances, as well as hold up to pressure testing ...
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