My Core Beliefs, Mission & Action Statement
/I believe in informed enthusiastic consent in all things - If you and everyone involved are not saying ‘fuck yes’ to an idea, event, or action it’s a ‘hell no’…
Read MoreFinding Safety in Safe Words
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Terms like sapiosexual, demisexual, pansexual, get thrown around a lot, and I’ve always wondered where I fit on the spectrum. A review of my past partners, and passed attractions, reveals something interesting to me. I don’t really have one type.
Whilst I have certain preferences and prefer to connect over intelligence/humour/personality/drive. One trait above all seems to rule out everything else. I’m attracted to clarity….
Read MoreWhy I Stopped Watching Porn
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“I don’t watch porn, that shit rots your brain.”
These words were casually said to me by a friend of mine. We were discussing different ways that we ‘Guard Our Mental State’. Basically talking about mental health and the things that we do to ensure that we stay in a stable place …
Why I Write Erotica
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On the surface, what follows could be taken merely as smut, and rightly so, I have written these poems purposefully to arouse you, and I do so hope to be successful in that endeavour…
Read MoreDon’t Stop Supporting Pride Month - My Story
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The story of ‘that’ tattoo, pride month, and the nature of online discourse…
Read MoreSex Toys, Shame and Making Your Man Moan
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Society seems to want to vilify all forms of desire and lust, while simultaneously using those very natural pulls to sell everything….
Read MoreWhy Porn Is Cheating, But Sex With A Side Piece Isn't
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Fallacious title, but go with me for a moment. What does it mean to ‘cheat’ on your partner? Can you actually define where that line is, or is there some ambiguous knowing that will occur that will somehow inform you when it happens?
Let me ask you some questions….
Read MoreStop Kink Shaming Yourself - Your Kinks Are Valid. Yes, Even ‘That’ Kink..
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There are certain activities that get me going. Certain situations, objects, places, and parts that really take sex to the next level. Don’t get me wrong, vanilla ice-cream is tasty, but sometimes I need to add some sprinkles and hot fudge sauce to enjoy my banana split sundae…
Read MoreI Am A Survivor Slut – On Trauma and Hyper Sexuality
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There is a direct connection between my mental state and arousal. When triggered, I go one of two ways; meltdown or hyper sexuality…
Read MoreJealous and Polyamorous – Your Feelings Are Valid, & What To Do About Them!
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To be clear, whatever you are feeling is valid, normal, and likely has been felt by many other people in your situation. Regardless of if you are new to the ethical non monogamous (ENM) space or a veteran, emotions can, and should continue to, arise.
But should you do with those emotions? Particularly the ones that are ‘bad’?
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